Internal Conflict – Something Everyone Experiences
By Jorg Thonnissen (2010) Registered Psychologist
Have you ever felt like you just cannot do what you’d really like to do? That there is ‘someone else’ inside of you who just can’t be bothered doing what you know needs to be done? Well… I come across this kind of internal conflict almost every day. Clients present with ‘issues’ that in most cases are between what they would like to achieve and their perceived inability of actually getting there. In short, it is a conflict between their conscious, rational mind and some undefined mostly irrational hindrance that is beyond their conscious awareness (i.e. the subconscious or unconscious).
As a first step, therapy deals with this by investigating where the irrational thoughts or beliefs have their origin (also called the Initial Sensitising Event in professional terms) and by doing so making the conscious rational mind aware of the possible reasons behind the irrational or unwanted behaviour.
Yet, even if the client is thus made aware, the desired changes don’t necessarily take place. In fact, there appears to be ‘someone’ within the client that just doesn’t want to make that change. There is the smoker who wants to stop, but somehow cannot really do it, there is the overweight client who wants to be slim, but finds him or herself unable to engage in a healthier lifestyle, there is the depressed client who wants to think positively but hears and sees only negatives. The list is endless and the multitude of internal conflict knows no bounds.
Hypnotherapy provides a safe and effective way in dealing with many of these internal conflicts by making you more open to suggestions designed to eliminate the discrepancy between what you want, and what you feel like doing.
